Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Faking is Believing, good advice for free.

     I remember when at my first job out of college I got thrown into a management position and I was petrified.

      It was for a fabulous, but somewhat unorganized woman who had a small business and three seasonal stores. The new job came with no such thing as a manual on how to manage the store or the people I was now in charge of, and I had no formal training in either.

     Panic set in . Then with some free advise from a friend and crossed finger, I began my job. She had said "your coworkers don't know that you don't know what you are doing." And so I faked it! Yup that's right I faked that I knew exactly what I was doing and gave the impression that they should follow instructions because I was in charge. And guess what? It actually worked! My employees worked hard and did what I said to do believing that I knew exactly what I was doing. I was flabbergasted and of course relieved.

     Then another thing began to happen the longer I faked it the more I believed it too. I even wrote the original manuals on how to do everything from the stock and computer to upkeep of the store and training for the jobs. I became the expert on how it worked and learned how to manage people by treating them how I wanted to be treated and demanding the same respect I gave out. I worked in a management position in many jobs successfully for a very long time and never went to school in the strict sense to do it.

     Then the other day while talking to another friend  and talking about how we don't see our own worth and talents, I thought, hey why not use this technique in every facet of my life? I want to be a succesful jewelry designer and business woman. I want to feel beautiful every day. I want to be a rock star! And why the heck not! Doesn't every person want to feel more confident?!

      So this morning I got up and I put makeup on for the first time in I don't know how long, I blew dried my hair big and beautiful, and I put on a lower cut shirt than I normally wear. Then I put on one of my more fancy necklaces and I went to toddler time! That's right toddler time. I decided to start with faking being a beautiful, confident mom who makes gorgeous jewelry. Low and behold it worked! I got so many compliments on my outfit and how nice I looked. I even some people asking where I got my necklace.  I couldn't stop laughing inside. And the best part was I believed it to. I did look great, but most importantly I felt great. I even think maybe, the best place to do my experiment was toddler time, because it made me see that feeling good should not be reserved for date night and special occasions only. It should be for you and it should be every day!

     Don't get me wrong, I love my comfy clothing and won't give them up, and some days you just can't find the energy to do it, but in reality those are the days you should. We are all worth the time and energy we easily dole out to others.

     So go ahead fake it, no one has to know but you. Use it for any number of situations where you want to believe you are a pro. Give it a try and see what happens, you may believe it after all! Everyone else believes it, so why not you?



  1. Hi! Found your blog by chance and I really like this advice! That's a great experiment, and something I will try! I want to learn a couple of new crafts/skills this year and I will remember to fake it til I believe it!!!! :)

    1. I am so glad you enjoyed it. I am having a great time writing and sharing my thoughts and experiments with others. Feel free to follow me on my journey and share with others. I am hoping to start including a few how to blog's on jewelry projects as well.